How it feels to be a cheated spouse

Dealing with the cheating spouse can be one of the most devastating and painful experiences one can face. The mix of emotions felt after being betraye...


Dealing with the cheating spouse can be one of the most devastating and painful experiences one can face. The mix of emotions felt after being betrayed by the partner overshadows everything else in life. No matter how many times the cheating spouse says sorry, the words alone cannot restore the respect, trust and fidelity in the marriage. The key is not to jump to the conclusions, and avoid pointing fingers.

It can be very annoying and irritating when the spouse constantly questions partner’s faithfulness. Look for some common signs of infidelity such as drastic change in the daily routine, strange phone numbers on the phone bill, emotional and intimacy withdrawal, too much time on the computer, being secretive about the phone calls and so on. If you see any major changes in your spouse, it might be the right time to find the catalyst for the change. Talk to your spouse by staying calm, reasonable and rational, and try not to bring up the issue in the offensive manner.

More isolation is not good for the state of mind in the existing scenario. As a person who has been betrayed and cheated, you now need to get your own priorities together. Ways to deal with infidelity varies from person to person, and if you want to make it work, consult a marriage counselor. The best way to deal with infidelity is to know the real reason behind it, and here, communication with your partner in a rational way is the key.

Letting go of the intimate relationship can be very difficult, but once you have suffered an extramarital affair, holding on may not be the best idea. Talk to your partner, and explain your expectations from the relationship. The key is to balance yourself by staying on the schedule, eating healthy foods, getting some exercise each day, drinking plenty of water and getting regular sleep. Once you and your partner have dedicated yourself to save the relationship, make plans for the future together.

As a cheated spouse, if forgiveness is possible for you, do so and do not go for payback by having an affair just to get even. Remember, dealing with infidelity is a long process, so give yourself plenty of time to heal emotionally. Think twice before telling your family and friends about your spouse’s infidelity as they might hold the grudge for a long time. If you think it is too much too handle, seek professional help.

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