Having a successful date does not happen by itself and it is something you need to work at.  If a date is to lead on to other things, a woman has to put in even more effort than a man, although in less obvious ways and here are a few dating tips for women to enable you to help a date go the way you want it to.  Keep in mind that everyone has baggage from the past and allowing your past to affect how you behave on a date is a sure way to ruin the evening  forget the past, this is now.  Also, even if your mood is fine, do not speak ill about your exes  doing so will make you seem to be a cry baby and will make the guy wonder if you will bad mouth him if things do not work out for no fault of his.

Keep your personal problems to yourself, at least in the beginning  men have a set concept of what is romantic and what is not and talking about your stomach problems or how you can’t use public restrooms will destroy any chance of his viewing you as the object of his affections.  While being open and honest is a good thing, there is a time and place for it and the first few dates are not the time to start confessing your personal flaws and irritating character traits  there will be time enough for this as the relationship develops.  Also, be careful of how much alcohol you consume  getting tipsy and prattling on is not cute and most men will get turned off by this.  Also, if you get smashed, how will you know how he behaved and whether he is right for you and even worse, will you remember everything that you did on your date  you may have set things going on a path that you don’t want and could find yourself trapped.

Pauses in the conversation are natural and you do not have to force yourself to fill up every gap, use the pauses to observe his body language and look for small thing you may have missed before  and silence can be very sexy.  A woman can make to first move towards getting a date, but after you ask the guy out, do not let him feel he is being chased  guys fear not being in control and that affects their image of themselves and their idea of being macho.