Dating Tips: Conversation is Where It All Begins

When you are on a date, you are spending time with another person and, hopefully, taking your relationship with him or her a step ahead in terms of yo...


When you are on a date, you are spending time with another person and, hopefully, taking your relationship with him or her a step ahead in terms of your mental, emotional and physical interaction.  The only way for two people to get started in getting to know each other and taking their relationship to a higher level is through conversation.  A first date can be awkward and getting a conversation started, let alone keeping it going, can be tough so here are some dating tips on conversation.

Humor is the key any dating conversation: no matter how serious the other person may be, making them smile or laugh out loud is the best way to get them to open up to you.  It is also a great foundation for a relationship as being able to later recall funny moments and private jokes builds a bond between the two people.  Although it is nice for couples to have a lot in common, having no differences will make the relationship boring: it will be like talking to yourself.  Take an interest in what interests your date says and ask questions, not just of the sake of keeping a conversation going, bit to learn more about him or her: you will be surprised at how this kind of conversation can add depth and value to a relationship.

It is also important to build up on what the two of you have in common: learn to not just talk about things that interest you but to analyze them for a deeper understanding and appreciation of what these things mean to each of you, both as individuals and as a couple.  Conversation will allow you to grow as a human being and the new perspectives you get from your conversations will only add to your appreciation of each other and increase your desire to spend time together.  Any list of dating tips on conversations will be incomplete if mention is not made of the importance of listening: not just listening with attention to what is being said but asking questions to demonstrate your interest and show that you are interested in your date as a person and not just a one night stand.

Never try and dominate a conversation: your date is an equal partner with an equal right to say what her or she wants to: blocking your date’s opportunities to talk will mean blocking interest in you.  Do not be afraid of having arguments as long as you are both clear that you are expressing your thoughts as equals and that disagreeing with your date does not mean any lack of respect for him or her.

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