Dealing With A Secret Relationship

There are more people than you would probably expect who are living in a secret relationship.  There are a number of different reasons that a person ...


There are more people than you would probably expect who are living in a secret relationship.  There are a number of different reasons that a person could be keeping their relationship secret.  If they are younger it may be because their parents do not approve or if they are older they may just not be sure of what they want.  Whatever the reasons may be, there are some problems that can be caused by a secret relationship.

For one thing, if you are dating someone that your friends or parents do not approve of there is probably a good reason why.  Especially for teenagers who like to rebel against their parents and date the ‚baddest kid in the school, if they are going to be a negative influence then you probably should not be dating them.  Your friends and parents are probably the closest people to you in your life.  They know you the best and if they think you are dating someone who is just not right for you or who is bringing you down somehow, maybe you should stop to listen.

If the reason is that you are just not sure how serious the relationship is and want to wait, it is fine to give it a bit more time.  It really all depends on whether or not you are planning to stay with this person for the long-term.  You cannot go together to public events or family functions.  You are going to be missing out on so many great things in life to keep your relationship a secret.

After all, your friends and family may not approve because they may not know the person well enough.  Decide if it will be the best idea to continue on with this relationship or break things off.  Who knows, if the reason your relationship is secret is because you are afraid of what they will say then maybe after they get to know your partner better they will actually like them.  First appearances are often deceiving and it may be a bigger help to you by letting your family and friends get to know this person better rather than keeping them apart.

You are going to be a nervous wreck if you pursue a secret relationship for the long term.  Always looking behind you to make sure that no one is watching will quickly start to become a nuisance.  You are going to be missing out on so much if you keep your relationship secret.  There is truly no way that a secret relationship can last for the long-term.

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