Helping Young Marriage Survive

There are a lot more couples getting married young today than ever before.  The rates of divorce are also up and this is a major reason why.  One of...


There are a lot more couples getting married young today than ever before.  The rates of divorce are also up and this is a major reason why.  One of the most common mistakes that young people make is they get so caught up in one relationship that they automatically assume this is the person for them.  Couples move faster to getting married these days than ever before, which is largely responsible for why the rates of divorce are also higher than ever before.

Couples get swept up and want to get married without stopping to think of spending more time with that person and getting to see what they are really like before doing the deed.  One of the biggest problems is that there is such a lack of communication among couples today.  Not only are couples going through with young marriage a lot of the time but then they are not communicating and will start to drift apart.  For the most part, those who go through with young marriage will not end up trying very hard to make the relationship last.

While of course this should not always be the answer, couples do need to start respecting the sanctity of marriage and realizing just how serious vows are.  Especially if you are younger you should give yourself a chance to get to know the person better before deciding you want to spend the rest of your life with them.  With a young marriage, both people involved need to take the relationship seriously and make sure that they are open and honest with each other.  Especially if they have children young as well for instance the man may decide that he is still young and wants to go out and party whereas the wife is now left at home feeling alone and neglected.

When you say your vows, you are promising to love and cherish this person forever and to stick it out with them through thick and thin.  If one still has the young attitude where they do not care and want to go out and have a good time and the other plans on settling down and raising a family, of course there are going to be problems.  There are always going to be tough times no matter who you are and how much money you may make.  Even if you make a ton of money and there may be nothing wrong with the relationship now, there are going to be stressors and things you have to deal with.

One of the best things that younger couples can do and especially after they are married is seek couples therapy.  Here a therapist will work with you to create a bridge of communication.   A therapist can help with this, by creating a bridge for the two parties to communicate.  This gives you an easier way to talk to one another and have someone there to help with the communication.

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